"For those who are suffering from loss and grief, these poems will be of great assistance to the healing process."
"I was deeply touched by this very personal and healing journey. That one can overcome a deeply felt personal loss, has been expressed in a very touching, intimate, vulnerable, direct and hopeful way. I am convinced that the reading of these poetic sketches will support all those that have to travel this same long and lonesome road."
Cited as an Outstanding Contender for the CRUSE Excellence in Communication Award 1997, this book is a journal in verse that charts the emotional and spiritual journey of one woman following the death of her husband
"A jewel of a book! The story is written so directly from the heart that it takes your breath away. It does not describe the essence of bereavement, it IS the essence of it. You feel the grief, the loneliness, the despair and the struggle so intensely that the book is almost thrilling - you ask yourself 'Will Kay be able to survive this difficult loss?' For those who have experienced such a loss, this book will be a source of great recognition. A wonderful book that I can recommend to everyone."
"The poetry would be very comforting to the bereaved at a difficult time in the healing process; a genuine moving book."
"If ever there was a poignantly moving book in the avalanche of new books about life and death then it is Kay van Dijk's Can I Let You Go, My Love? The love story that emerges through the poems and continues after the death is a sublime tribute to the human capacity to cope with grief, as well as a tribute to the poetry that expresses these feelings in a more touching and striking way than a narrative account could. The poems are extremely moving and can be of great support to those in a comparable situation, travelling along this same lonely road."
"The ability to face emotion and transcend it in the minimum of words - a thing so few of us have the courage to do - was most poignant and inspirational. I look forward to recommending it."
"The openness with which Kay dares to describes her grief and desperation during the illness and death of her husband makes it possible for the reader to recognise and relive one's own grief. I was moved to tears by the pain of having to let go of an intense bond of love and how that love transcends death. "I read it whilst en-route to give a lecture to some nurses, carers of the dying, and I realized just how important the contents were... I will be delighted to recommend it to all my teaching groups and workshop participants... I'll most definitely add this wonderfully alive heart opening story to the suggested reading lists."
"…… I think that those who have loved and have experienced loss will not be able to read these poetic sketches without once more experiencing their joy and grief. It is as if with a jerk, you are thrust into the midst of the forgotten experience. …."
"...full of love, leading to a curious kind of wisdom...the cycle reveals a progression towards a sort of resurgance....This is a chronicle, not of recovery, but of accommodation, told with tenderness."
" The directness of the poems brings the reader immediately into one's feelings. Kay abstains from giving the usual explanations, found in other books. It is a warm book and recommended for those going through a similar experience. For therapists, it is very worthy of being read, among other things because of the important transformation that Kay experiences, while working through the death of her loved one.